Yesterday, on my way out to visit Zac, I got a phone call from the social worker. 'I want to set up meeting for tomorrow with you and doctor.' I set it up for 4pm. She added 'If we all agree, he can go home with you after the meeting.' Oh.
Yesterday, i also decided on hiring lawyer to deal with the CHINS process. i feel too lost in Legal Hell to be able to be effective at it. I don't think I can advocate for him the way I should. I feel the school didn't help me by saying 'File the CHINS, it will solve all your problems' and stating they support the CHINS, not giving any actual support, or any clear explanation. Now I am stuck with a CHINS,
which might be a good or a bad thing, but it surely is a complicated thing. I met with my laywer today to discuss the reasons I had for filing the CHINS and how to prove our side.
This morning, i called the hospital to reschedule today's meeting to tomorrow, since I could not at all do it on top of other stuff and the lawyer meeting going on in the afternoon.
This afternoon, Zac called me all upset. 'Why didn't you come pick me up??? They told me I could leave today at 4pm! And you weren't there!' Gah. It was my understanding that the meeting would decide whether he could go home, but that doesn't seem to be what they told him. He was crying. :(
This afternoon, Violet disappeared for a while, and we could NOT find her at all. She wasn't at any of her friend's houses. She hadn't told Vincent (who was in charge) where she was going. I spent almost an hour looking for her. Eventually she came home from our local beaver pond. Where she is allowed to go IF SHE TELLS SOMEONE HER PLANS. So all that had been needed was telling Vincent about her destination and there would have been no issue at all. Phew. Worries I didn't really need on top of the other crap.
Last night I visited my sister 'on the way back' from Concord and she fed me and let me cry on her shoulder. That was good and helped me to ground. Today, I am back to being an emotional wreck.
I don't think I can avoid getting Zac home tomorrow. This is an acute care hospital and he is not acute anymore. He sleeps 8 hours a night (according to nurses) although according to Zac he only sleeps one hour a night. I don't know.
On Monday we have meeting at school to talk about placement considerations. On Tuesday we have hearing about the CHINS. My life is too interesting right now, I want boredom.
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Hospital Again. Part III: On My Way to Hospital
Recap of last Tuesday. Zac was off with the state troopers, I was kind of in shock. I KNEW that most likely hospital was going to happen. But it still was like I was seeing a car accident in slow motion, and things were moving, and there was nothing I could do to prevent it. It was one of those moments when you feel that this should be a bad dream, and you will wake up soon, and it will all be over. Only I never did wake up and I was stuck in reality instead.
I started making phone calls, finding someone to drive with me to the hospital (an hour's drive). I felt in shock still, and was tired, and sad, and didn't want this to be happening.
I came home, where Ysa just had made a wonderful macaroni and cheese in the oven. For all that she is very challenging and annoying teenager-y at times, she also is a great cook and it was Very Nice to come home to good comfort food which I did not have to make. I called X and asked him to take care of the other kids so I could go down to the hospital to do the check in. He thought for a bit and told me 'That messes up my plans for the night.' I bit my tongue and waited, and finally he agreed to do it.
My friend arrived, and we drove up the to hospital, and I could talk talk talk talk on the way there, both on the phone to take care of practical details (thanks sis!) and to my friend who patiently let me ramble and ramble.
We arrived at the hospital where I got to sign form after form after form. Sign here, here, there, this paper, that paper, and a few more. After I signed all twenty five papers, I could go to the unit to visit Zac. One thing I hadn't expected was that he isn't in the child's psych ward anymore, which is a separate building. He now is in the main building, in the adolescent's unit, which is a lot more boring and depressing.
I visited him, which will be separate post since much was said, and after the visit my friend took me out to an excellent Thai restaurant for dinner before driving back. I feel very loved and supported in this journey, but I don't want to be on this part of the journey at all!
Now I will sleep.
I started making phone calls, finding someone to drive with me to the hospital (an hour's drive). I felt in shock still, and was tired, and sad, and didn't want this to be happening.
I came home, where Ysa just had made a wonderful macaroni and cheese in the oven. For all that she is very challenging and annoying teenager-y at times, she also is a great cook and it was Very Nice to come home to good comfort food which I did not have to make. I called X and asked him to take care of the other kids so I could go down to the hospital to do the check in. He thought for a bit and told me 'That messes up my plans for the night.' I bit my tongue and waited, and finally he agreed to do it.
My friend arrived, and we drove up the to hospital, and I could talk talk talk talk on the way there, both on the phone to take care of practical details (thanks sis!) and to my friend who patiently let me ramble and ramble.
We arrived at the hospital where I got to sign form after form after form. Sign here, here, there, this paper, that paper, and a few more. After I signed all twenty five papers, I could go to the unit to visit Zac. One thing I hadn't expected was that he isn't in the child's psych ward anymore, which is a separate building. He now is in the main building, in the adolescent's unit, which is a lot more boring and depressing.
I visited him, which will be separate post since much was said, and after the visit my friend took me out to an excellent Thai restaurant for dinner before driving back. I feel very loved and supported in this journey, but I don't want to be on this part of the journey at all!
Now I will sleep.
Still in Hospital
Zac is still in the hospital and I am just soooooooooo tired. Tonight I'll just do a quick update.
Thursday I met with social worker and doctor. Zac will be switched to abilify, which is an anti psychotic. He still has weird thought patterns, I hope the abilify will help. Looks like he will stay in for 7 to 10 days (average)
On Friday, I went to court, where Zac stated that he had never ever said anything about killing, I was making it all up. The rest of Friday he spent waiting for the judge to call him, telling him he could go home.
Today, I didn't visit , but sent X and Vincent. Vincent told Zac was doing well, only he was very bored.
I have tons of support, but it still is hard. Today was nice to just stay home and only have 25 home commitments but not have to drive to the hospital (an hour's drive). And friends helped me fold 42 weeks of laundry tonight. My friends rock.
At this point I just want to sleep and make it all go away, but we all know that life isn't that simple. Yesterday, my internet wasn't working, which was annoying.
Thanks for being there!
Thursday I met with social worker and doctor. Zac will be switched to abilify, which is an anti psychotic. He still has weird thought patterns, I hope the abilify will help. Looks like he will stay in for 7 to 10 days (average)
On Friday, I went to court, where Zac stated that he had never ever said anything about killing, I was making it all up. The rest of Friday he spent waiting for the judge to call him, telling him he could go home.
Today, I didn't visit , but sent X and Vincent. Vincent told Zac was doing well, only he was very bored.
I have tons of support, but it still is hard. Today was nice to just stay home and only have 25 home commitments but not have to drive to the hospital (an hour's drive). And friends helped me fold 42 weeks of laundry tonight. My friends rock.
At this point I just want to sleep and make it all go away, but we all know that life isn't that simple. Yesterday, my internet wasn't working, which was annoying.
Thanks for being there!
Thursday, March 26, 2009
Hospital Again. Part II: Evaluation.
I came back into the room, and gave her my summary of the situation, all the stuff that had happened recently, and a quick recap of the school year. We also talked about the home situation and the little ones. I think it was pretty clear in her mind that things were serious. Zac helped by empathically stating 'I will kill everyone if I have to go to the hospital.' She calmly wrote that down and later added her to her witnesses statement.
He kept repeating 'I want to go home.' 'I want to go home.' Interspersed by 'I don't want to go to the hospital.' Hermione told him it was not his choice anymore. He was going, and he could choose to go voluntary or involuntary. He kept saying he didn't want to go, so she made up the paperwork for involuntary admission.
He started saying things like 'I am doing so badly because my mom always tells me I am a failur. She tells me I will never amount to anything. She tells me I am an idiot. She is emotionally abusive. She wishes I had been a still born. She hates me!' More and more.
Our family therapist came in to wait with us for all the paperwork to be processed. Zac kept repeating that he wanted to see his case manager. They managed to get him in and he calmed down Zac and they did a puzzle for a while. It was good to have him in there with us for a while. The psychiatrist came in too to do a quick physical. It was quite a lot of traffic for a small room.
Zac kept going between 'I want to go home', 'I don't want to go to the hospital' and 'She tells me I am a failure ALL THE TIME!'
They got him food, since he started complaining he hadn't had breakfast. He also complained that I would never let him see the psychiatrist. There were a lot of complaints about me.
He said he didn't feel safe in the hospital. They kept reassuring him that it was a safe place. He said he worried about emergency procedures. They told him that hospitals have a lot of good emergency plans in place. He said he didn't feel safe. The family therapist said that there is a difference between the way we feel and the way that reality is. If you don't feel safe it doesn't mean that you aren't safe.
After about FOUR hours, the cops finally showed up (involuntary admission = cops) They handcuffed him (but were as nice about it as you can be in those circumstances, telling Zac that these were their rules, and their boss insisted). Gah, the other times he went by ambulance, this was hard to witness. He was off to the hospital, I started making phone calls to arrange for kids and for myself. I knew it was the best decision to have him hospitalized, but it still totally SUCKED.
He kept repeating 'I want to go home.' 'I want to go home.' Interspersed by 'I don't want to go to the hospital.' Hermione told him it was not his choice anymore. He was going, and he could choose to go voluntary or involuntary. He kept saying he didn't want to go, so she made up the paperwork for involuntary admission.
He started saying things like 'I am doing so badly because my mom always tells me I am a failur. She tells me I will never amount to anything. She tells me I am an idiot. She is emotionally abusive. She wishes I had been a still born. She hates me!' More and more.
Our family therapist came in to wait with us for all the paperwork to be processed. Zac kept repeating that he wanted to see his case manager. They managed to get him in and he calmed down Zac and they did a puzzle for a while. It was good to have him in there with us for a while. The psychiatrist came in too to do a quick physical. It was quite a lot of traffic for a small room.
Zac kept going between 'I want to go home', 'I don't want to go to the hospital' and 'She tells me I am a failure ALL THE TIME!'
They got him food, since he started complaining he hadn't had breakfast. He also complained that I would never let him see the psychiatrist. There were a lot of complaints about me.
He said he didn't feel safe in the hospital. They kept reassuring him that it was a safe place. He said he worried about emergency procedures. They told him that hospitals have a lot of good emergency plans in place. He said he didn't feel safe. The family therapist said that there is a difference between the way we feel and the way that reality is. If you don't feel safe it doesn't mean that you aren't safe.
After about FOUR hours, the cops finally showed up (involuntary admission = cops) They handcuffed him (but were as nice about it as you can be in those circumstances, telling Zac that these were their rules, and their boss insisted). Gah, the other times he went by ambulance, this was hard to witness. He was off to the hospital, I started making phone calls to arrange for kids and for myself. I knew it was the best decision to have him hospitalized, but it still totally SUCKED.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Today
Will follow up on more of hospital stuff later, need to write down today's note. I spoke to so many people on the phone today.
Spoke to parent advocate, spoke to Gopher (school case manager) and requested a meeting at school, including the psychologist who evaluated Zac last year. Of course, my printer is not working, but I suckered a friend into printing the letter.
Spoke to hospital social worker. They have started evaluating, but will take a few days. I will meet with her tomorrow at 2pm. I told her highlights of his last year and and she wondered out loud whether maybe the public school wasn't the right placement for him. I heartily agreed. Maybe this will be the right way to get him more help and residential placement.I feel I only told her so little of what was going on. Will take a lot of documents tomorrow, and I will write a short summary, just have to figure out the printing crap. Gah.
Spoke to the legal person, hearing will be Friday morning, to get him officially committed. All those meetings and hearings are an hour's drive away. Not so convenient. But I can combine them with visiting Zac, so that makes it worth it for sure.
My sis called insurance and found out that this time they did know and the counseling center actually had notified them. Last time, somehow this step ALWAYS got messed up by the hospital.
I also updated Violet's case manager, since Violet missed yesterday and today at school. She'd better make it tomorrow. Violet seems to have more life skill issues, and less anxiety issues though, so we should be fine with her when we figure out how to help her.
I spent most of my morning on phone, and then focused on fun activities with the four youngest. That was good grounding for me and for them. Tonight I visited a good friend, and soaked up some love and support before going back and being the perfectely positive parent at home.
Will have more information tomorrow and will write more tonight or tomorrow.
Baby Bear is on my lap and being cute and perfect, but I have a hard time focusing with her interruptions, even although they are cute.
Spoke to parent advocate, spoke to Gopher (school case manager) and requested a meeting at school, including the psychologist who evaluated Zac last year. Of course, my printer is not working, but I suckered a friend into printing the letter.
Spoke to hospital social worker. They have started evaluating, but will take a few days. I will meet with her tomorrow at 2pm. I told her highlights of his last year and and she wondered out loud whether maybe the public school wasn't the right placement for him. I heartily agreed. Maybe this will be the right way to get him more help and residential placement.I feel I only told her so little of what was going on. Will take a lot of documents tomorrow, and I will write a short summary, just have to figure out the printing crap. Gah.
Spoke to the legal person, hearing will be Friday morning, to get him officially committed. All those meetings and hearings are an hour's drive away. Not so convenient. But I can combine them with visiting Zac, so that makes it worth it for sure.
My sis called insurance and found out that this time they did know and the counseling center actually had notified them. Last time, somehow this step ALWAYS got messed up by the hospital.
I also updated Violet's case manager, since Violet missed yesterday and today at school. She'd better make it tomorrow. Violet seems to have more life skill issues, and less anxiety issues though, so we should be fine with her when we figure out how to help her.
I spent most of my morning on phone, and then focused on fun activities with the four youngest. That was good grounding for me and for them. Tonight I visited a good friend, and soaked up some love and support before going back and being the perfectely positive parent at home.
Will have more information tomorrow and will write more tonight or tomorrow.
Baby Bear is on my lap and being cute and perfect, but I have a hard time focusing with her interruptions, even although they are cute.
Intermission: a few days back
No time to write much, but don't want to forget X's proposal a few days ago. 'Maybe Zac should live with me for a while.'
I politely replied that I didn't think that would be the best solution. At the moment Zac doesn't even wan to visit , after the last 'X yelling at him' incident. Geez.
I politely replied that I didn't think that would be the best solution. At the moment Zac doesn't even wan to visit , after the last 'X yelling at him' incident. Geez.
Hospital Again. Part I: Getting Him Into Evaluation
Well, back to square one. Which is bad in the short run, but I really hope this crisis will give him TONS more help in the long run. And I feel a big sense of relief, although there is plenty of sadness too. I am frustrated by having to commit him again, but I also know that this is the best and safest for him right now. Things were so Not Good and Very Very Bad.
We went to counseling center at 1:20pm, after he woke up at 1pm. I told him to eat some breakfast, since we had appointment with Hermione, at emergency services. Zac refused to eat breakfast till we had to leave, and then suddenly was ravenously hungry. I offered him different choices for food to eat in the car, but he refused them all, so he went without breakfast.
We arrrived in town, I parked and he refused to get out. 'I just want to go home!' 'I just want to go home!' I told him the appointment wasn't optional, and Hermione was waiting for us. He kept refusing, so I got out and moved behind some parked cars to call the front desk and tell them about status quo. The moment I disappeared (I could still see car, but Zac couldn't see me), I heard my car door and saw him get out. Phew.
We checked in, and he started stating very loudly 'I want to go home!'. For some reason we got seen Very Quickly ^^
We got settled in a room with Hermione, and Zac started explaining to her that he didn't feel safe with me in the room, since I was emotionally abusive. I said 'Would you like to talk to Hermione by yourself? I can wait in waiting room.' and that's what we ended up doing at first. I knew the counselor would easily be able to detect the 'weird' thought patterns and I sat and read and couldn't concentrate on anything, so just sat and was in the moment. I knew hospital was possiblity, but it was too far away in time to actually make plans and I was in a weird, almost dream-like state.
These kinds of things don't happen to me or my family. Only OTHER people have severe issues with their kids. I would feel sorry for them and be grateful that I don't have them with my own kids.
So here I was , sitting in waiting room, being present, but not very focused.
We went to counseling center at 1:20pm, after he woke up at 1pm. I told him to eat some breakfast, since we had appointment with Hermione, at emergency services. Zac refused to eat breakfast till we had to leave, and then suddenly was ravenously hungry. I offered him different choices for food to eat in the car, but he refused them all, so he went without breakfast.
We arrrived in town, I parked and he refused to get out. 'I just want to go home!' 'I just want to go home!' I told him the appointment wasn't optional, and Hermione was waiting for us. He kept refusing, so I got out and moved behind some parked cars to call the front desk and tell them about status quo. The moment I disappeared (I could still see car, but Zac couldn't see me), I heard my car door and saw him get out. Phew.
We checked in, and he started stating very loudly 'I want to go home!'. For some reason we got seen Very Quickly ^^
We got settled in a room with Hermione, and Zac started explaining to her that he didn't feel safe with me in the room, since I was emotionally abusive. I said 'Would you like to talk to Hermione by yourself? I can wait in waiting room.' and that's what we ended up doing at first. I knew the counselor would easily be able to detect the 'weird' thought patterns and I sat and read and couldn't concentrate on anything, so just sat and was in the moment. I knew hospital was possiblity, but it was too far away in time to actually make plans and I was in a weird, almost dream-like state.
These kinds of things don't happen to me or my family. Only OTHER people have severe issues with their kids. I would feel sorry for them and be grateful that I don't have them with my own kids.
So here I was , sitting in waiting room, being present, but not very focused.
Tuesday, March 24, 2009
Today
This morning, I was unable to get him out of bed. So he is missing yet another day.
The psychogist called. We chatted about things not going well (I have an appt for Zac on Thursday) and she asked 'Do you think he needs more or should we switch him.' I told her I just didn't know, it is so hard to tell. But I DREAD having to switch again, adding new instability to an already Very Fragile and Stressful situation. She felt he needed to be evaluated by Emergency Services today and was going to set that up. I haven't heard back from them yet, so that might be a phone call I will make soon.
We met with the parent advocate today and got much useful information about lawyers/ school / everything. My head is still reeling, I have many notes to follow up on and friends to help me with some of this.
The really good news is that I can get 20 hours of respite care a month as long as I can find my own provider, and I have someone in mind who would be perfect. Going to work on that.
And emergency services just called, going in right now for eval. Send good thoughts!
The psychogist called. We chatted about things not going well (I have an appt for Zac on Thursday) and she asked 'Do you think he needs more or should we switch him.' I told her I just didn't know, it is so hard to tell. But I DREAD having to switch again, adding new instability to an already Very Fragile and Stressful situation. She felt he needed to be evaluated by Emergency Services today and was going to set that up. I haven't heard back from them yet, so that might be a phone call I will make soon.
We met with the parent advocate today and got much useful information about lawyers/ school / everything. My head is still reeling, I have many notes to follow up on and friends to help me with some of this.
The really good news is that I can get 20 hours of respite care a month as long as I can find my own provider, and I have someone in mind who would be perfect. Going to work on that.
And emergency services just called, going in right now for eval. Send good thoughts!
Monday, March 23, 2009
Crisis
Today.
He did go to school.
I spoke to parent advocate , who recommended calling vice principal and emergency services, and not to hesitate to call the police if Zac acts threatening at all.
I left many messages for Gopher, his school case manager, and never reached him at first, so left message for vice principal instead. I spoke to vice principal who got school psychologist involved. The psychologist talked to him for about five minutes, did some behavorial stuff and said there was a lot of repetitive OCD-ish thought 'stuck' in his head. The psychologist will see him again tomorrow. The psychologist said not to hesitate to call emergency services if needed.
I spoke to his case manger at counseling center, who said not to hesitate to call emergency services.
I spoke to emergency services who said he would review and call back with a plan, but hasn't done so yet. Which hopefully means it is going to be a Real Good Plan, or that another more urgent emergency came up. That is the phone call I am waiting for right now.
I spoke to Gopher, who said not to hesitate to call the police if needed.
Zac went with me on an errand and spent most of the time, telling me he wanted to go HOME and seemed close to opening the car door. I drove very carefully and mindful of that. There was again bad language, but nothing threatening.
I don't know.
He did go to school.
I spoke to parent advocate , who recommended calling vice principal and emergency services, and not to hesitate to call the police if Zac acts threatening at all.
I left many messages for Gopher, his school case manager, and never reached him at first, so left message for vice principal instead. I spoke to vice principal who got school psychologist involved. The psychologist talked to him for about five minutes, did some behavorial stuff and said there was a lot of repetitive OCD-ish thought 'stuck' in his head. The psychologist will see him again tomorrow. The psychologist said not to hesitate to call emergency services if needed.
I spoke to his case manger at counseling center, who said not to hesitate to call emergency services.
I spoke to emergency services who said he would review and call back with a plan, but hasn't done so yet. Which hopefully means it is going to be a Real Good Plan, or that another more urgent emergency came up. That is the phone call I am waiting for right now.
I spoke to Gopher, who said not to hesitate to call the police if needed.
Zac went with me on an errand and spent most of the time, telling me he wanted to go HOME and seemed close to opening the car door. I drove very carefully and mindful of that. There was again bad language, but nothing threatening.
I don't know.
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Not a Good Day
Today was Not a Good Day at all. Zac got up late, explained to me why that was all my fault. Then totally fell apart when I asked him to empty the dishwasher, calling me and Ysa bitches and other choice words. He also said he was never going to take his god damn medicine again. When I told him he earned some nice laundry chores to do with me thanks to the language, he got even more upset and verbally abusive and told me 'Everyone in this house should be killed!'
He also threatened to destroy the light box, because he hates it.
He hates school, doesn't feel safe at school, doesn't learn anything at school, and always is only minutes away from a school shooting. And he is NOT Going tomorrow!
Tonight, he first refused to take his medicine, but finally did, but not his melatonin, only his celesta. I am not happy with his current mental state.
He also threatened to destroy the light box, because he hates it.
He hates school, doesn't feel safe at school, doesn't learn anything at school, and always is only minutes away from a school shooting. And he is NOT Going tomorrow!
Tonight, he first refused to take his medicine, but finally did, but not his melatonin, only his celesta. I am not happy with his current mental state.
Friday, March 20, 2009
Spoke To Emergency Services
I called Emergency Services and spoke to some one about the situation. She offered an appointment to see the psychiatrist on Tuesday, which I took. Since I don't feel his meds are working very well right now.
X said maybe I can do something fun with him, I said 'Sure, you can talk to him and see what he wants.' although my gut feeling is that Zac will not want anything after last week's X temper tantrum in the car. I am so tired of it all.
X said maybe I can do something fun with him, I said 'Sure, you can talk to him and see what he wants.' although my gut feeling is that Zac will not want anything after last week's X temper tantrum in the car. I am so tired of it all.
Off to School Today
Well, he did get up and make it to school, but I don't like his mental state at all. I called the school to give them a heads up and I called the counseling center case manager to give him a heads up too. I might call emergency services later today and bounce ideas of them, he feels sooooooooooo fragile.
Blah.
Blah.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Life is Hell
Yesterday, and today, Zac didn't make it to school. He just does not wake up in the morning. I don't think he plays at night, at least, spot checks have not revealed any computer use.
Tonight he told me 'Life is hell!'
He is upset about not making it to school. His case manager called today and said they were going to put consequences in place, like detention. On the one hand I am happy they are finally doing something after six months of not having ANY consequences for missing school. On the other hand, detention might not be the right answer.
When I told Zac about the school's plan, he said 'I just won't go to school, so I can't do detention. Um... right.
He also said he wouldn't take his fucking medicine anymore, although later he did anyway. I don't like any of this, and am not sure where we are going. He kept saying he won't be able to get up tomorrow morning anyway, so he doesn't even have to try. Everything he does fails. Can we say depressed?
Everything at school goes wrong too. When I asked him what went wrong 'I don't learn anything!'
He keeps pointing at other people for everything.
Yesterday, when he woke up late morning, and I was at homeschool club. When I came back he accusingly told me 'WHY weren't you home to drive me to school????' I told him it is not my job to drive him to school.
He blamed me taking him on an errand Tuesday night, his brother's computer alarm, the little kids, ANYTHING but himself. I don't think staying home from school each day is teaching him any accountability either.
Today he blamed me for not waking him up, even if I did multiple times, and he just was not responsive. When I talked about the light box for tomorrow, he told me that he HATES the light box.
I am close to getting him into emergency counseling if this goes on tomorrow or through the weekend. I am very worried. Even if he didn't threaten any self harming, he still feels Very Depressed to me.
Tonight he told me 'Life is hell!'
He is upset about not making it to school. His case manager called today and said they were going to put consequences in place, like detention. On the one hand I am happy they are finally doing something after six months of not having ANY consequences for missing school. On the other hand, detention might not be the right answer.
When I told Zac about the school's plan, he said 'I just won't go to school, so I can't do detention. Um... right.
He also said he wouldn't take his fucking medicine anymore, although later he did anyway. I don't like any of this, and am not sure where we are going. He kept saying he won't be able to get up tomorrow morning anyway, so he doesn't even have to try. Everything he does fails. Can we say depressed?
Everything at school goes wrong too. When I asked him what went wrong 'I don't learn anything!'
He keeps pointing at other people for everything.
Yesterday, when he woke up late morning, and I was at homeschool club. When I came back he accusingly told me 'WHY weren't you home to drive me to school????' I told him it is not my job to drive him to school.
He blamed me taking him on an errand Tuesday night, his brother's computer alarm, the little kids, ANYTHING but himself. I don't think staying home from school each day is teaching him any accountability either.
Today he blamed me for not waking him up, even if I did multiple times, and he just was not responsive. When I talked about the light box for tomorrow, he told me that he HATES the light box.
I am close to getting him into emergency counseling if this goes on tomorrow or through the weekend. I am very worried. Even if he didn't threaten any self harming, he still feels Very Depressed to me.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
The Joys of Court
Well, not sure what this helped us, or will help us at all, but the first court date is over. Turns out it was just an arraignment, and nothing did happen yet but setting a trial date, for early April.
When we came into court, Zac's attorney was waiting for him. This attorney was chosen by the court/ state to represent Zac. He introduced himself to us, and explained Zac that he had been appointed to represent Zac as a lawayer. He said he did not necessarily have Zac's best interests in mind, he would do what Zac wanted him to do. He is not a guardian at litem who would pursue Zac's best interests. He said if Zac wants to fight the charges, he will fight, if Zac wants to consent with the charges, he will consent. Hmmm.
Zac and his lawyer went off to talk. At the end of Zac's conference with him, the lawyer asked us to come in to ask a few questions. (me and X). He asked about medications and the names of his psychiatrist and stuff like that. He also told us
that they had decided to plead 'Not true' to the charges of truancy. Naturally, the absences are easily proved, but it is not as easily proven that his absences weren't due to mental/ medical issues. In that case it wouldn't be an unexcused absence, I guess, so not truancy.
I, as the petitioner, will have to prove beyond reasonable doubt that his truancy issues are true. I am still very unclear about the process, and what would or would not be 'beyond reasonable doubt. The outcome then would be dismissal or consent, in which case consequences will be imposed by the judge. I have no idea what kinds of
consequences though.
I feel like I am stumbling in a pitch dark room, having no idea where I am going, or where I even WANT to go. I thought this CHINS thing would help us get more services, but for now it is just a major pain in the butt with no clear benefits beyond me having to prove things which are hard to prove. How can I prove it is not a result of his depressed mental state that he isn't making it to school? How do I
know it is not anxieties holding him back.
I will talk to many people over the next few weeks, and try to get some more clarity. I wonder whether I should get a lawyer for this too, but I have to admit that finances are getting tighter and tighter.
I think it is also Really Hard for me that I am not 100 % sure residential is the way to go. Is it possible that , IF he makes it to school every day, 5 hours of school will help him get ready for daily life? I would like to think yes, but I have to admit that I wonder. I don't see much work on social skills at school, beyond one hour of social therapy with speech therapist, and one visit with school
psychologist each week. He refuses ANY social groups, both in and out of school. Do we have the luxury to not let him participate, or do we need to force the issue by going residential?
I thought the CHINS would help to make residential happen, but now I am not so sure anymore. Will it just be two months of work and stress without any results? Would it be better to try to convince the school to consider residential? Although they don't seem to be there yet, and they seem to think that the CHINS is the answer to any problems. I need to ask them WHAT exactly the CHINS would do to make it The
Answer. Because from where I am standing, I cannot see it. Heck, I cannot see anything right now.
When we came into court, Zac's attorney was waiting for him. This attorney was chosen by the court/ state to represent Zac. He introduced himself to us, and explained Zac that he had been appointed to represent Zac as a lawayer. He said he did not necessarily have Zac's best interests in mind, he would do what Zac wanted him to do. He is not a guardian at litem who would pursue Zac's best interests. He said if Zac wants to fight the charges, he will fight, if Zac wants to consent with the charges, he will consent. Hmmm.
Zac and his lawyer went off to talk. At the end of Zac's conference with him, the lawyer asked us to come in to ask a few questions. (me and X). He asked about medications and the names of his psychiatrist and stuff like that. He also told us
that they had decided to plead 'Not true' to the charges of truancy. Naturally, the absences are easily proved, but it is not as easily proven that his absences weren't due to mental/ medical issues. In that case it wouldn't be an unexcused absence, I guess, so not truancy.
I, as the petitioner, will have to prove beyond reasonable doubt that his truancy issues are true. I am still very unclear about the process, and what would or would not be 'beyond reasonable doubt. The outcome then would be dismissal or consent, in which case consequences will be imposed by the judge. I have no idea what kinds of
consequences though.
I feel like I am stumbling in a pitch dark room, having no idea where I am going, or where I even WANT to go. I thought this CHINS thing would help us get more services, but for now it is just a major pain in the butt with no clear benefits beyond me having to prove things which are hard to prove. How can I prove it is not a result of his depressed mental state that he isn't making it to school? How do I
know it is not anxieties holding him back.
I will talk to many people over the next few weeks, and try to get some more clarity. I wonder whether I should get a lawyer for this too, but I have to admit that finances are getting tighter and tighter.
I think it is also Really Hard for me that I am not 100 % sure residential is the way to go. Is it possible that , IF he makes it to school every day, 5 hours of school will help him get ready for daily life? I would like to think yes, but I have to admit that I wonder. I don't see much work on social skills at school, beyond one hour of social therapy with speech therapist, and one visit with school
psychologist each week. He refuses ANY social groups, both in and out of school. Do we have the luxury to not let him participate, or do we need to force the issue by going residential?
I thought the CHINS would help to make residential happen, but now I am not so sure anymore. Will it just be two months of work and stress without any results? Would it be better to try to convince the school to consider residential? Although they don't seem to be there yet, and they seem to think that the CHINS is the answer to any problems. I need to ask them WHAT exactly the CHINS would do to make it The
Answer. Because from where I am standing, I cannot see it. Heck, I cannot see anything right now.
Math and Zac's Dad
For two weeks, Zac's dad helped him with math, and it seemed to be going well. Apart from the time when he was laying on the stairs, crying that he didn't want to go to his dad. I think that was more a transition issue than anything else. He just didn't want to go away from home.
The third week, his dad helped him one night, and did part of his homework, and that was it. They never finished the homework, and Zac said 'Oh, no problem, I'll just ask for an extension.' Um... yes, just do the darned HOMEWORK already if you want to do a college course. And I wasn't impressed with Zac's dad for not following through on the homework either.
This week, his dad had been ignoreing the whole homework issue till Saturday , when the older kids had a visit with him. I think he was planning on doing math with Zac on that visit.
On the way there, Vincent and Zac were being typical teenagers and annoying each other greatly. This upset X so much that he started yelling and cursing at them, which really scared Zac. This was before they even had left the neighborhood, so it's not like there had been hours of misbehaving, we are talking about minutes. X just totally lost his cool, and Zac wanted OUT of the car, so X let him out. Zac refused to get back in the car, and refused offers to ride to X's house, or home, and decided to walk home by himself.
Crying and very upset. I so hurt for him. He is giving his dad a chance, and his dad so totally blew it yet again. He came home and told me the story. Ten minutes later his dad called and wanted to be sure Zac made it home. It was clear to his dad that Zac was to blame though by mishaving.
Sigh.
The third week, his dad helped him one night, and did part of his homework, and that was it. They never finished the homework, and Zac said 'Oh, no problem, I'll just ask for an extension.' Um... yes, just do the darned HOMEWORK already if you want to do a college course. And I wasn't impressed with Zac's dad for not following through on the homework either.
This week, his dad had been ignoreing the whole homework issue till Saturday , when the older kids had a visit with him. I think he was planning on doing math with Zac on that visit.
On the way there, Vincent and Zac were being typical teenagers and annoying each other greatly. This upset X so much that he started yelling and cursing at them, which really scared Zac. This was before they even had left the neighborhood, so it's not like there had been hours of misbehaving, we are talking about minutes. X just totally lost his cool, and Zac wanted OUT of the car, so X let him out. Zac refused to get back in the car, and refused offers to ride to X's house, or home, and decided to walk home by himself.
Crying and very upset. I so hurt for him. He is giving his dad a chance, and his dad so totally blew it yet again. He came home and told me the story. Ten minutes later his dad called and wanted to be sure Zac made it home. It was clear to his dad that Zac was to blame though by mishaving.
Sigh.
Friday, March 13, 2009
Haha
OK, talked to Vincent's father.
Me 'Vincent is behind on all his schoolwork.'
Him 'Oh, that is not good.' A pause, followed by a happy 'Maybe he should quit his job!'
Me 'Maybe he should play less World of Warcraft.'
Him 'Oh.'
He figured out that Vincent can do his school work at his house too, since it is a virtual class, and hopefully that means that he will actually support him doing schoolwork before playing World of Warcraft. We'll see.
But I loved the solution 'He can quit his job!'. Um... no :p
Me 'Vincent is behind on all his schoolwork.'
Him 'Oh, that is not good.' A pause, followed by a happy 'Maybe he should quit his job!'
Me 'Maybe he should play less World of Warcraft.'
Him 'Oh.'
He figured out that Vincent can do his school work at his house too, since it is a virtual class, and hopefully that means that he will actually support him doing schoolwork before playing World of Warcraft. We'll see.
But I loved the solution 'He can quit his job!'. Um... no :p
The Joys of Fathers
Last night, Vincent decided to sleep over at his father's house, so that he coudl play his WoW at night. This morning he called me. 'Can I play tonight?' 'No?' 'I think I'll sleep over at papa's again.'
I see.
A few days ago, I verbalized the problems to his father. I will verbalize them again today. School work is very important to his father, at least in theory, so we'll see whether the 'school work suffering' card is going to work here.
And it will be great subject for next session of family therapy.
I see.
A few days ago, I verbalized the problems to his father. I will verbalize them again today. School work is very important to his father, at least in theory, so we'll see whether the 'school work suffering' card is going to work here.
And it will be great subject for next session of family therapy.
Thursday, March 12, 2009
WoW Addiction III: My Worries
I didn't know how bad things were till I talked to Vincent about this a few days ago, and some of the things he said raised more red flags in me. Not to mention the fact that he got his own router to circumvent my access restrictions.
Vincent 'You know, WoW is not just a game, it is very social.'
About his job, for which he was late about an hour because of night time playing 'Well, I don't really care for this job anyway.' I made it very clear to him that if he chooses to work, he also should make his commitments for that job.
He has a few real life friends, and does some hanging out with them,but mostly to play computer games. See a theme here? When he said he wanted to watch a movie, and I said 'Cool, you can ask T', he said 'No, that is too much work, trying to figure out when we can make it, and arrange it all.'
About WoW 'I HAVE to do things every day. I HAVE to do raids, people count on me!' There is a certain obsession with the game.
About his life 'You know, I am just hanging out here till I turn 18, and then things will be so much better since I can move out.' Um... yes, when the apartment fairy shows up and hands him his key and the money fairy to give him his income? I think he has some growing up to do here.
He is not making any progress towards going to college, even if he has expressed a strong desire to go. He is doing high school classes, but they are suffering, so I will have to manage them a bit better. I thought he would have the maturity to manage them for himself. I think there will be a clear correlation between hours of school work and hours of World of Warcraft. The good news is that I figured out today how to block WoW without blocking the rest of the internet, so that he can still do his on line school work , but not play WoW when he shouldn't.
I think he is a tad out of touch with reality, and way more addicted to WoW than I ever realized. The last few weeks, his home commiments, his work commitments, and his school commitments all have suffered.
I also would love to get him into more real life activities with his friends. I asked him about things he enjoys doing which he might want to try, but he couldn't come up with any. I know I want to go hiking more with the whole family once the snow finally disappears, but that is not enough, I want him to hang out and socialize with peers too. But the hiking will at least take care of some physical exercise issues, for everyone.
Will have to figure out which other options there are in our community. For now will severely restrict WoW play until he can live up to his other commitments. He was not happy with me at all when I forbid him the raiding tonight, and I think there will be many more moments of unhappiness there.
Vincent 'You know, WoW is not just a game, it is very social.'
About his job, for which he was late about an hour because of night time playing 'Well, I don't really care for this job anyway.' I made it very clear to him that if he chooses to work, he also should make his commitments for that job.
He has a few real life friends, and does some hanging out with them,but mostly to play computer games. See a theme here? When he said he wanted to watch a movie, and I said 'Cool, you can ask T', he said 'No, that is too much work, trying to figure out when we can make it, and arrange it all.'
About WoW 'I HAVE to do things every day. I HAVE to do raids, people count on me!' There is a certain obsession with the game.
About his life 'You know, I am just hanging out here till I turn 18, and then things will be so much better since I can move out.' Um... yes, when the apartment fairy shows up and hands him his key and the money fairy to give him his income? I think he has some growing up to do here.
He is not making any progress towards going to college, even if he has expressed a strong desire to go. He is doing high school classes, but they are suffering, so I will have to manage them a bit better. I thought he would have the maturity to manage them for himself. I think there will be a clear correlation between hours of school work and hours of World of Warcraft. The good news is that I figured out today how to block WoW without blocking the rest of the internet, so that he can still do his on line school work , but not play WoW when he shouldn't.
I think he is a tad out of touch with reality, and way more addicted to WoW than I ever realized. The last few weeks, his home commiments, his work commitments, and his school commitments all have suffered.
I also would love to get him into more real life activities with his friends. I asked him about things he enjoys doing which he might want to try, but he couldn't come up with any. I know I want to go hiking more with the whole family once the snow finally disappears, but that is not enough, I want him to hang out and socialize with peers too. But the hiking will at least take care of some physical exercise issues, for everyone.
Will have to figure out which other options there are in our community. For now will severely restrict WoW play until he can live up to his other commitments. He was not happy with me at all when I forbid him the raiding tonight, and I think there will be many more moments of unhappiness there.
WoW Addiction II: The Router Wars
I felt pretty confident that I was on top of the night time on line play. I mean, access restrictions, no way he could go online at night. I slept well at night, knowing I was on top of things.
Only.
I wasn't on top of things at all.
First resistance: circumvent the router and just use the modem.
My reply: hide all the network cables.
Second resistance: reset the router when you REALLY want to play at night.
My reply: didn't figure it out yet, but now go to bed with my router. Yes, I am weird.
Third resistance: gotta love this one, he got his OWN ROUTER. Took me a while to figure out.
My reply: get up at 3:30am, take his router and hide it in my room.
Fourth resistance: he finds router in my room and gets it back.
My reply: steal it again, and hide it better.
I didn't find out about his own router until a few days ago. I also didn't realize how much he had been playing at night without me noticing until recently. He used to be very good at getting up in time to make it to his job, but now he started having a hard time waking up. Blaming the alarm. Blaming everything but the night time play.
I think I am on top of the night time play now, and I forbid him to go raiding (WoW activity) tonight, since he did not meet his home commitments this week. He told me he was so sorry and it would never happen again, and now could he raid? No...
He called his dad and is staying over there tonight, just so he can play WoW and raid. I have told his dad about the problem, but I don't think he quite groks it yet. I guess at least he is not interfering with Zac's sleep tonight, which is good about playing at his dad's house.
Only.
I wasn't on top of things at all.
First resistance: circumvent the router and just use the modem.
My reply: hide all the network cables.
Second resistance: reset the router when you REALLY want to play at night.
My reply: didn't figure it out yet, but now go to bed with my router. Yes, I am weird.
Third resistance: gotta love this one, he got his OWN ROUTER. Took me a while to figure out.
My reply: get up at 3:30am, take his router and hide it in my room.
Fourth resistance: he finds router in my room and gets it back.
My reply: steal it again, and hide it better.
I didn't find out about his own router until a few days ago. I also didn't realize how much he had been playing at night without me noticing until recently. He used to be very good at getting up in time to make it to his job, but now he started having a hard time waking up. Blaming the alarm. Blaming everything but the night time play.
I think I am on top of the night time play now, and I forbid him to go raiding (WoW activity) tonight, since he did not meet his home commitments this week. He told me he was so sorry and it would never happen again, and now could he raid? No...
He called his dad and is staying over there tonight, just so he can play WoW and raid. I have told his dad about the problem, but I don't think he quite groks it yet. I guess at least he is not interfering with Zac's sleep tonight, which is good about playing at his dad's house.
WoW Addiction I: The History of Night Time Play
I think Vincent might be having some addiction issues I was not aware of until a few days ago. Going to post time line just to help me put my own thoughts in order and figure out where to go to from here.
Vincent always has been a bit addicted to video games, not resting till he 'beat' every game he got. Of course, beating the game is not quite possible in World of Warcraft, but he seemed to enjoy playing the game, but not at the exclusion of other things.
Over the last years, playing video games (not necessarily WoW) in the middle of the night has been an occasional issue for both boys, although it seems to have gotten worse over the last few months. For a while, when the Zac issues weren't going on yet, I decided not to worry too much about it, since compared to alcohol / drugs / other teenage crap this seemed a pretty tame way to rebel. As long as they met their daytime commitments, family and school wise, I didn't consider the night time games too much of a problem.
This changed when Zac was getting more and more sleeping issues, and I tried to come down hard on night time play. The main issue is that it is Really Hard to monitor at night though. I used to stay up most of the night, making it easy to monitor, but since I do sleep now, there is less I can do.
But I am in control of the internet. Every night, I would turn off internet access for all computers, using my router's access restrictions. I thought this took care of at least any online play. The games at home tend to be more boring than the online ones. Once in a while, the router would reset itself, which I thought strange, but didn't realize yet that this was Vincent doing it, since he claimed innocence and this router has been acting up at times. Now I am not so certain anymore. Gotta love hindsight.
Vincent always has been a bit addicted to video games, not resting till he 'beat' every game he got. Of course, beating the game is not quite possible in World of Warcraft, but he seemed to enjoy playing the game, but not at the exclusion of other things.
Over the last years, playing video games (not necessarily WoW) in the middle of the night has been an occasional issue for both boys, although it seems to have gotten worse over the last few months. For a while, when the Zac issues weren't going on yet, I decided not to worry too much about it, since compared to alcohol / drugs / other teenage crap this seemed a pretty tame way to rebel. As long as they met their daytime commitments, family and school wise, I didn't consider the night time games too much of a problem.
This changed when Zac was getting more and more sleeping issues, and I tried to come down hard on night time play. The main issue is that it is Really Hard to monitor at night though. I used to stay up most of the night, making it easy to monitor, but since I do sleep now, there is less I can do.
But I am in control of the internet. Every night, I would turn off internet access for all computers, using my router's access restrictions. I thought this took care of at least any online play. The games at home tend to be more boring than the online ones. Once in a while, the router would reset itself, which I thought strange, but didn't realize yet that this was Vincent doing it, since he claimed innocence and this router has been acting up at times. Now I am not so certain anymore. Gotta love hindsight.
CHINS Has Been Filed
Yesterday, I did file the CHINS petition. It was just a one page document, and not particularly complicated, apart from me feeling weird about filing something against my own kid. Even if I know I do it to get him the help he needs, it feels very weird.
I still don't totally understand the practical implications. Logan wrote: "CHINS, at least where I live, sends a truancy officer to escort your child to school if they refuse to go. Here, truancy officers are police officers, and they have the power to make the ultimatum, "get out of bed and go to school, or I put you in the car and you can come tell the judge why you won't go."
That makes a lot of sense, but it turns out that our town does not have a truancy officer at all. No idea why not, I guess it is not considered important enough to get kids to school? If I had any time or energy , it would be something I seriously would consider trying to get for our town. But for now, we are lacking one. What I heard is that 'You can call the police a few times to get a kid to school, and then they will say, we won't do that, just get a CHINS' But no one has been clear yet on what the consequences for the kid are if he refuses to go to school while having a CHINS in place. I guess I will find out.
The hearing will be on Tuesday, pretty fast for sure. I think we get to talk to his probation officer that day too, it is still not at all clear to me, I just know I seem to have to jump through this hoop.
Anyway, Zac went to school yesterday and today on his 5 hours schedule, which is MUCH better for me to have less issues with Zach / Bryan. Tomorrow is a day off.
I still don't totally understand the practical implications. Logan wrote: "CHINS, at least where I live, sends a truancy officer to escort your child to school if they refuse to go. Here, truancy officers are police officers, and they have the power to make the ultimatum, "get out of bed and go to school, or I put you in the car and you can come tell the judge why you won't go."
That makes a lot of sense, but it turns out that our town does not have a truancy officer at all. No idea why not, I guess it is not considered important enough to get kids to school? If I had any time or energy , it would be something I seriously would consider trying to get for our town. But for now, we are lacking one. What I heard is that 'You can call the police a few times to get a kid to school, and then they will say, we won't do that, just get a CHINS' But no one has been clear yet on what the consequences for the kid are if he refuses to go to school while having a CHINS in place. I guess I will find out.
The hearing will be on Tuesday, pretty fast for sure. I think we get to talk to his probation officer that day too, it is still not at all clear to me, I just know I seem to have to jump through this hoop.
Anyway, Zac went to school yesterday and today on his 5 hours schedule, which is MUCH better for me to have less issues with Zach / Bryan. Tomorrow is a day off.
Tuesday, March 10, 2009
CHINS
OK, so we had our big meeting. Zac attended. He made it very clear he doesn't want to go to residential school, which implies that he will have to suck it up and go to our local high school. He was negative about everything they offered, so his input was not particularly helpful, but I am still glad he was there.
New plan: back to 5 hours school day (since 2 hours wasn't working anyway and 5 hours will give him more time to do stuff at school and me more time without him at home). School bus will pick up at 9:10am.
He will use his light box before he goes to school, will be interesting whether he lives up to that.
I will file a CHINS petition (Child In Need of Services) which presumably would give me more practical help to actually GET him to school. I still am not sure about the exact practical implications, I guess we'll find out soon. No idea about the time line either, I will file as soon as possible.
It looks like the CHINS hoop is a hoop we have to jump through to be able to do any residential placement. I spoke to someone at Spaulding and they need referral either from the school or from DCYF.
If he finally starts going to school, the CHINS is not going to change much. But it will give some more power to use if he doesn't live up to his responsibilities. Even if I can't oversee the implications yet. I think there also is a family piece, with 'Family Strength' therapy coming into the home, I vaguely remember looking into them when things were bad with Zac in 2007.
So yet again I will go to court, I have spent way too much time there over the last few years. But I think it is the right step to take if we can' t get to do residential yet.
New plan: back to 5 hours school day (since 2 hours wasn't working anyway and 5 hours will give him more time to do stuff at school and me more time without him at home). School bus will pick up at 9:10am.
He will use his light box before he goes to school, will be interesting whether he lives up to that.
I will file a CHINS petition (Child In Need of Services) which presumably would give me more practical help to actually GET him to school. I still am not sure about the exact practical implications, I guess we'll find out soon. No idea about the time line either, I will file as soon as possible.
It looks like the CHINS hoop is a hoop we have to jump through to be able to do any residential placement. I spoke to someone at Spaulding and they need referral either from the school or from DCYF.
If he finally starts going to school, the CHINS is not going to change much. But it will give some more power to use if he doesn't live up to his responsibilities. Even if I can't oversee the implications yet. I think there also is a family piece, with 'Family Strength' therapy coming into the home, I vaguely remember looking into them when things were bad with Zac in 2007.
So yet again I will go to court, I have spent way too much time there over the last few years. But I think it is the right step to take if we can' t get to do residential yet.
Friday, March 6, 2009
Zac
Yesterday made it to school, after a normal night sleep as far as I could tell.
Today, I heard him walking around at 5am, so not sure how much sleep he did or did not get during the night. I expect he'll stay up till school time and make it, and they will count it as a success, while I am not sure about that.
I made him empty the dishwasher and now getting him to clean some of his room, which is very needed. He seemed in good mood, so that is positive. I don't know. This week he will have made it three days, which is not that impressive for only two hours a day. Of course, one of the absences was a snow day, which they will not count, but I know he got up at 5pm that day.
Today, I heard him walking around at 5am, so not sure how much sleep he did or did not get during the night. I expect he'll stay up till school time and make it, and they will count it as a success, while I am not sure about that.
I made him empty the dishwasher and now getting him to clean some of his room, which is very needed. He seemed in good mood, so that is positive. I don't know. This week he will have made it three days, which is not that impressive for only two hours a day. Of course, one of the absences was a snow day, which they will not count, but I know he got up at 5pm that day.
Wednesday, March 4, 2009
No School Today
Last week:
Thursday I drove him to school 'I did nothing in the resource room.'
Friday, went to school with 12:15pm school bus 'It was ok.'
This week:
Monday snow day (he slept till 5pm though)
Tuesday, I heard him walking around at 6am, and I am not sure how much he slept or if he slept at all. He did go to school with 12:15 pm bus.
Today, I couldn't get him out of bed. He would say 'ok', then roll over and go back to sleep. When he finally got up at 3:30pm, he explained 'Well, I did wake up at 9am, but I knew you would yell at me if I came downstairs that early, so I went back to bed.' Um... right.
Gopher, his case manager called, and he was like 'well, things are going quite well, it's ok if he misses a day here and there.' Um... Not quite.
Anyway, he missed school and it's all my fault. We'll see what happens tomorrow.
Thursday I drove him to school 'I did nothing in the resource room.'
Friday, went to school with 12:15pm school bus 'It was ok.'
This week:
Monday snow day (he slept till 5pm though)
Tuesday, I heard him walking around at 6am, and I am not sure how much he slept or if he slept at all. He did go to school with 12:15 pm bus.
Today, I couldn't get him out of bed. He would say 'ok', then roll over and go back to sleep. When he finally got up at 3:30pm, he explained 'Well, I did wake up at 9am, but I knew you would yell at me if I came downstairs that early, so I went back to bed.' Um... right.
Gopher, his case manager called, and he was like 'well, things are going quite well, it's ok if he misses a day here and there.' Um... Not quite.
Anyway, he missed school and it's all my fault. We'll see what happens tomorrow.
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