Hardiness Vision Statement is Official

X and I met with dr Plato and have solidified the hardiness vision statement. We are supposed to teach to this document and give it to all the therapists (done ^^) and tell them to help us support the children in developing hardiness / heartiness.

At home we hang up the list and point out when we ourselves do anything that is on the list (look, this is number 8, asking for help!) and when the kids do things on the list. This includes the kids helping the other kids to recognize when they are doing something that is on the list.

Dr Plato stated that a good teacher makes the abstract obvious, because just reading the list to them obviously isn't going to teach them much, since a lot of the list items are more abstract than concrete.

This will be interesting.

He asked for our feedback on this new approach. I told him that I liked the positive way to approach this and was looking forward to implementing it.

X's input was a bit more negative, but about me, nothing about the actual list. He claimed that I would not be capable of doing this, proven by the fact that I had said 'That builds character' to Bryan when he claimed boredom a few days ago.

Dr Plato asked him why he thought that was a bad thing to say. X 'She is saying this is not my problem, don't bother me! Frankly, I am not surprised at all that Bryan is so neurotic' (yes, he used that exact word for his son!) 'since she is so mean to him!'

Dr Plato asked what he would have answered when Bryan would have told him he was bored 'Well, I would have told him he could as well do his homework if he was bored anyway. He needs me to suggest things when he is bored!' Of course, my sarcastic self says that Bryan will never be bored at his house anyway because there is unlimited screen time.

Interesting to see how X still tries to blame everything on me. How there was no reflection on the vision statement at all, just on me. I was talking to my friend about it and she expressed that maybe I should always expect him to blame me so that I wouldn't be surprised.

Juggling

This blog has been neglected a bit, which doesn't mean nothing is happening, I just haven't found the opportunity to sit down and write about it.

Every one has good moments and not so good moments.

Vincent has gotten his GED, quit his job and now spends 24/7 playing computer games... He does want to go to college, but hasn't made any moves yet in the direction to start making that happen.

Zac has not been visiting his weekly visits for about a month now, the only time he came over was Easter (there was candy after all ^^) He missed one day of school this week so far. The 'limiting computer time' at the ex's house is totally not working, I don't think there has been a very good attempt at all from the ex, which is both unsurprising and sad.

Ysa is doing a bit better, even if there are still moments like last night when she was kicking the doors because I didn't want to let her watch a South Park episode at 10pm.

The others have had interesting moments, and if I was in any way organized I would have documented them. But for now, just throwing out a 'I am alive and we are well' message.

I feel good about getting a lot of things done, even if blogging isn't one of the things. But I am keeping many balls in the air and not dropping many at all.